Nice Guys Are Awesome, Nice Women Need Improvement!

 I cannot help but notice there is a significant difference in the way nice MEN are perceived & treated as opposed to how nice WOMEN are treated by society as a whole.

People often spout off the cliche that 'nice guys finish last.' Nice guys MAY finish last!  However,  when it comes to men vs. women, nice MEN actually ARE appreciated, celebrated in a greater capacity by society and given their flowers more often than nice women👏 

A nice guy is a great or stand-up guy within his circle. Yet nice WOMEN are seen as gullible, weak, vulnerable, crazy, stupid doormats of lesser value who stand for absolutely nothing, hold very little to no power in given situations, ask to be mistreated and are more likely to fall prey to any slightly well-orchestrated con at any given moment.

I have worked in food service for the past several years. I started out on the Frontline but am now a back of the house employee (which I actually prefer). 

When I was on the Frontline I noticed growing hostile attitudes toward me on an almost daily basis working the front register, whenever I showed the least amount of kindness & patience toward the most unbearable customers. Especially from those of the female persuasion.. 

My kindness was often rejected, viewed as fake, weak, suspicious, masking ulterior motives or as timidity as opposed to me simply being a genuinely decent human being.  

I also remember a few male customers losing their temper, yelling and storming out of the line and the restaurant due to me 'having such a soft voice' they were strangely intolerant of and easily annoyed by.

 It's okay to be a soft-spoken MAN, but according to many, soft-spoken women are sneaky, deceptive, dishonest and have a hidden agenda. They are viewed as lost, pathetic souls suffering from 'Daddy issues.' 

They are also easy to manipulate and set up in false narratives. They are often cast out as the villain in the scenario, even when it obviously does not fit the fable.

Even where tips are concerned, men always tip men better than female employees are tipped by either gender. Even on my best days I sometimes received a $1 tip from smirking women who seemed intent upon and took pleasure in insulting my hard work and intentionally overlooking my impeccable people skills (not boasting).

 However, I've witnessed male employees receive $50 to $100 tips from male customers for putting forth the exact same effort.

Nice men rock. Nice women can KICK rocks 🪨 is not only the message being sent, but the attitude seems to be the norm and currently running 🏃‍♀️ rampant for how our society is governed.  

We live in a world where nice women are offered advice on 'How To Be a Bitch' as a 'self-improvement' technique. As if kindness itself is the 7th deadly sin where social norms are concerned for women. Yet kind men are never offered a guide on 'How To Be a Bigger & Better Jerk.' In fact, men being open jerks is frowned upon. Yet mean girls with zero tact get more respect & support in general from both genders as if it's an expectation.

Don't get me wrong, I love being a woman and I cherish and adore men with all my heart. I also appreciate ALL the tips I've received (most from $5-$20) However, I wouldn't wish THIS life as it is on even my worst enemy!!!